Why watch masturbation? Well, the reason we have such a large collection of masturbation videos, particularly featuring women pleasuring themselves, is that humans simply love to watch! But there are other benefits too.
Watching someone masturbate, especially your lover is not only erotic, but it can also be educational. You get to see how their body responds to a particular action—you can witness what parts they stimulate first and what parts they avoid. This is great for understanding how they elevate their pleasure. After all, they know their body best—especially if they masturbate.
Because even in this day and age, female masturbation is still seen as taboo—we love to dispel this and produce ethical erotic films that show how natural female self-pleasure is and how satisfying and arousing it can be. Watching someone masturbate on screen can really help with breaking down those barriers and show you or your lover that it’s a normal, fun and healthy part of your sexuality.
We’ve been told it’s wrong.
Watching someone masturbate in real life might feel so very naughty or too private to allow any thoughts of wanting to be a voyeur. However, in a survey for Men’s Journal, We-Vibe stated that seeing masturbation scenes on TV shows helped people to be more open about the subject and encouraged them to talk about it with friends. Only through education and being open can we break down the shame and discomfort that’s been ingrained for generations.
To see someone completely absorbed in their own sexual responses is extremely sexy! To wonder what they’re thinking about as they begin to touch themselves in a deliciously erotic manner. To witness the moment where they go from casually caressing their skin to actively stimulating their erogenous zones… My goodness, is it getting hot in here?
There are so many permutations to watching someone masturbate—for example, in our recent film, Clitoral Joy with Romy, we are treated to being fully involved with her pleasure. She engages us with eye contact and talks to us throughout—telling us what she’s doing to her body and just how much us watching her turns her on. It’s a truly gorgeous sex video and very inspiring if you are thinking about masturbating in front of a lover. It might feel easier to talk to them, draw them in and include them in the play in this hands-off yet very inclusive way. Maybe making the rule that they aren’t allowed to touch, just watch. This might offer the psychological comfort that you’re doing a sex act together rather than just masturbating for yourself. We are complex creatures with so many hang-ups that have been passed down through generations of very little, or zero, sex or sexuality education. It’s no wonder we need little clues and ideas on how to make us relax and feel safe in the knowledge that we are doing something wonderful and natural.
Shedding the shame, why watch masturbation films:
Many times, masturbation isn’t even about sex—it can simply be a way to relax or connect with your body—like a pleasurable hug just for you. The hormones released can induce natural relaxation and help you to drift off into a deep refreshing sleep. Perhaps by reframing your ideas surrounding what masturbation actually is, you could shed some of that shame and move into the erotic space more freely. Masturbation as a healing tool to reset, relax and energise can be a powerful way to connect with your inner self. Getting a bit hippy in here? See it as a stepping stone to unleashing your inner exhibitionist!
What we can learn when we watch masturbation videos
Watching someone masturbate on screen is admittedly very different from watching in real life, where our hang-ups and little nuances of personality come into play. Arousal and lust can be a fickle mistress, and sometimes a fleeting ember of lust can take a lot of fanning to ignite into passionate flames. But once you overcome those feelings, let yourself go and fall into that space of utter horny conviction, you might be rewarded with more than just lovely orgasms … one hell of a horny lover to contend with afterwards!
And here’s another lovely erotic movie featuring Sylvan softly whispering to the camera, urging you to watch and listen to him reminisce about your time together. It shows a different side of masturbation, sharing a moment of real emotion and how our bodies and sex are such a powerful way to connect.
Then there’s this sex movie, Dark Outside, where we are invited in to watch a private moment with Jennifer, who is unaware of her audience. Again just a lovely example of someone feeling turned on and taking action to satisfy themselves. Languishing in a warm duvet, reading and simply enjoying her own company, Jennifer soon starts caressing and teasing herself, allowing the covers to slip and reveal her beautiful body. Watching someone masturbate through their panties, arousing and building that lust for themselves, is very horny indeed! Unlike Romy, Jennifer is oblivious to us watching her, and her own pleasure is the sole focus of her attention.
If your lover is very shy about masturbating in front of you, or vice versa, watching erotic films like these can really help to normalise the act. At the very least, it might open up a discussion where you can figure out if it’s something you want to do together. And the best part is, there are always our sex films if you decide the reality isn’t for you.
Being self-conscious is all too common, and while you might love the thought of wanking for your lover, it might take a bit of working up to.
It is especially helpful if you are in a long-distance relationship where sexual contact is limited to voice and screen time. You could practice by taking a video of yourself first to see how you feel. But do bear in mind we are our own harshest critic, so imagine you are looking through your lover’s eyes… or that you are watching your lover. Give yourself the love and encouragement you would anyone else and dive on into self-seduction. Take your time, plan it out… perhaps even spoil yourself a little with new lingerie or luxuriously scented candles. Take time to set your own scene and have yourself be the star of the show.
This erotic film is a wonderful example of just this very thing where Emilya makes love to herself down by the fire in this beautifully shot scene. It is a gentle build-up where she explores her body and then witnesses the glorious climax where she completely loses herself in her pleasure. What an extremely erotic and sensual visual treat.
So you’ve got up your courage, you’ve found your inner sex god, and wow, you’ve turned into a fierce hot exhibitionist… and here we have an all-out shame-free fuck YES masturbation scene, Teasing Her. Our mystery man fisting his hard cock in the shower, edging and enjoying sex with himself is sexy AF—teasing her indeed! It’s a real joy to watch someone masturbate so unapologetically, feeling themselves, knowing what they are doing is hot—and the thought that they are being watched turns them on even more. Girl on the Net wrote this fantastically enthusiastic wank story to accompany this erotic movie, “The vision that is this man abandoning himself to the simple, casual joy of wanking himself off until he comes will be permanently etched onto my mind. The privilege of getting to glimpse him in a moment that is simultaneously powerful and vulnerable is something for which I will always be grateful.”
She is also a fan of watching her lovers fuck themselves to orgasm in real life too:
“There’s something very primal about watching someone wank—that instinctive drive for them to touch themselves in exactly the way they most like to be touched. Seeing the muscle-memory-trained way that they grip their cock (or rub their clit), getting an insight into how they best like to be touched. I’ve made it sound like homework there, but it’s far from that: it’s like a brief peek into their brain. One of my favourite things to do while watching someone wank is to ask them to show me some porn movies they have recently enjoyed. Flicking my eyes between the screen and their rapidly-shuffling hand allows me to see into their internal world. Which things make their cock twitch harder? Which moments in the erotic video cause them to speed up, or grip tighter? There’s also an aspect of sitting back and watching that speaks to the anxious person in me: I don’t need to worry if I’m doing the right thing, or making the right noises, or squeezing just tight enough. I can just sit back and enjoy the show.”
Perhaps you’re the same as our man in the film—you can’t get enough of people watching you, being the object of sexual appreciation and fantasy. And we say hell, YES! Embrace your self-love and exhibitionism, for plenty of us out there just love to watch…
Or what if you and your partner have a mismatched libido or get slightly out of rhythm during sex? If one of you orgasms before the other, instead of feeling frustrated or embarrassed, why not see if they’d be open to watching you masturbate? Sometimes one partner just takes longer to come, and we need to begin normalising that this is ok. You don’t need to be on a quest to come together or feel a personal letdown if you haven’t managed to make your partner climax. This can put pressure on both parties and sometimes even prologues the journey in a less than pleasant way. Feeling relaxed enough to talk this through and understand that masturbation is always an option, even during sex, might be the key to a more fulfilling sex life.
And watching someone masturbate while you’re in that glorious post-orgasmic haze can add another layer of intimacy between you.
Here are some reasons why watching masturbation is a great idea:
1. Learn new things: Whether that’s what the person masturbating likes or what you might like, watching someone else’s technique can surely only add to your own knowledge of what might feel good.
2. Increase intimacy: if you’re watching a partner masturbate, you are watching them be in their most vulnerable state, and if you take turns or watch each other simultaneously, you are opening yourself up to a deeper connection. To fully let go and be in the moment as you spiral off into orgasm can take a lot of trust and understanding. Allowing your partner the space to do this is a deeply trusting and intimate thing to do, especially if neither of you is used to exhibitionism.
3. Dispel myths: For example, watching someone masturbate with a sex toy or several sex toys is a wonderful way to throw out the notion that if your lover uses a sex toy, it competes with you. Films depicting solo sex toy use will reveal that it’s all about pleasure. There’s no competition going on. Sex toys are there to complement and enhance sex and pleasure, not to make you feel bad or inadequate. We are huge fans of sex toy use here, and our solo films are surely great evidence of that. Most of our female masturbation films feature a vibrator or butt plug of some description, so we hope to strip away any negativity and celebrate everything to do with sexual pleasure. As an aside, watching someone masturbate on screen with a sex toy will give you a great idea of whether that particular product might work for you—without having to invest in lots of different toys.
Speaking of sex toys, here’s a short list of a few that feature on the site:
• Wand: Ah, the trusty wand! We have several films starring the classically intense vibrations of this mighty sex toy. This one, Orgasm Surprise shows the intensity that this type of vibrator can bring—ending in an unexpected gush for our leading lady, Coco… We’ve reviewed a Doxy wand for further research here.
• Butt plug: Masturbating with a butt plug is a fantastic way to discover the joys of anal sex. Once you are used to it, letting your lover watch as you pleasure yourself in this way will blow their mind. Especially if anal sex is something, you’re hoping to try. Or, if you are already a fan, using a butt plug in front of your lover while they watch, oh wow, can you imagine how sexy that would be? We particularly love this film, Plugged Pleasure where Victoria readies herself for the evening ahead by masturbating with a butt plug.
• Penis sleeve: We adore this sex movie where Sylvan receives a gift couriered to him by his lover. It contains a Tenga Egg, which is a stretchy silicone sheath filled with lube and placed over the cock to enhance masturbation. This is a lovely film, and we’ve even reviewed these eggs for your sexy consideration.
• Oscillating wand: Romy in Clitoral Joy, uses this fantastic small-headed wand which pinpoints pleasure in a very direct way. Read our review of this type of toy here.
• Air pulse: This masturbation video shows the gorgeous Vinna taking her pleasure and indulging her beautifully pregnant body in pleasure during those horny hormones rampages. Air pulse vibrators have a little nozzle that covers the clitoris and pulses to mimic the action of being suckled. We’ve reviewed an air pulse toy here.
If you are already a fan of masturbating in front of people, what is the best thing about it? What advice would you offer to anyone interested in trying it out?
As always, while championing the joys of sexual pleasure and hopefully encouraging you to try out new things, we always advocate first for communication and consent.