You may already be au fait with the delights of the derriere, but if you are curious, we thought we’d feature the joys of anal fun and how to use a butt plug.
Firstly, the term ‘butt plug’ is such an unsexy name for what can be a truly sumptuous sensual experience. Put simply; a butt plug is a device that you insert into your anus to stimulate the nerve endings there. There are so many different types of butt plug, from bejewelled stainless steel and handcrafted glass to soft silicone and rubber. People have made your anal experience their artistic priority. The design and shape of your butt plug are very important. The anus is a very tight double ring of muscles which, whilst usually opening to let things out, is also very adept at closing around and sucking things back in! So any implement you put inside your bottom must have a flared base or handle, so it does not go further than intended.
We’ve all seen the stories in the press about people appearing at Accident and Emergency red-faced to get an object retrieved from their back passage.
Why learn how to use a butt plug?
So, why on earth would you want to learn how to use a butt plug or go anywhere near this area? As mentioned earlier, the anus is full of incredible nerve endings, and whether you’ve tried it or not, stimulating these can really give some lovely sexy sensations. There’s also still that slightly ‘naughty’ element of anal play. They are still viewed as almost forbidden pleasures when they can be part of everyone’s healthy sexual exploration.
Butt plugs are a wonderful way to try out bum fun, as they are available in slender beginner sizes, and you can experiment until you find one that feels right.
First steps on using a butt plug
Before introducing the idea to a lover or partner, it might be a good idea to try one out by yourself. Perhaps letting your finger stray while you’re in the bath or shower. You might be shy of your normal bodily functions and how you might react to a perceived invasion. So a little trial and error during your masturbation or ablutions will help you relax and let go.
If using your finger feels too strange already, you might be ready to try out a plug from the beginning. Be sure to choose a beginner’s level plug at first; you don’t want to cause pain and shut yourself off before you’ve really begun. Anal play needs to be done with relaxation in mind.
There are many brands on the market, be sure to choose a body-safe material with a slender neck and juicy large flared base to stop any fears of your fun plug disappearing.
Using a butt plug remember the lube
We can’t stress enough how important lube is to proceedings. If you are using a silicone toy, avoid silicone lube as it can degrade the surface, causing danger of bacteria collecting and damaging you. Make sure any lube is compatible with your toy and your body. As tempting as it might sound, we don’t recommend numbing lubes or gels as these can cause you to stretch further than you intended, potentially causing injury, and more obviously, if sensation is what we’re trying to achieve, we surely don’t want to dial it down.
Be liberal with your lube. Slather it all over your hole, fingers and toy. Get it good and slippery; the wetter, the better, we always say! The thought alone might be arousing, so really take your time getting in the mood, working yourself up to the first breaching.
Consider the positioning
You’ll want to be as comfortable as possible, legs spread with your bum in an easy-to-reach position. Lie back among some pillows so you are held up and supported. It might feel oh so naughty, so let your touch drift lightly over your anal opening, tracing the ridges and dips there, pressing with the flat of your finger, then the tip of your toy.
As you press the tip into the dip of your ring, try to breathe out in a nice long breath, letting relaxation wash over you. You might be amazed at how huge the toy feels down there, how expanded you are already without even opening up. That’s those nerve endings we talked about! If you are finding that you are meeting some resistance, try ‘bearing down’ as if you were pushing something out rather than letting it in. It might give you the invitation you need to open up fully.
To really get in the mood and understand why you would want to know how to use a butt plug, it is a wonderful idea to watch a film featuring butt plug use.
Some great erotic movies featuring the use of a butt plug
Plugged Pleasure – a woman gets ready for the evening indulging in some solo pleasures with her beautiful diamond butt plug.
English Garden – Enjoy some gorgeous alfresco sex featuring the joys of double penetration with glass dildos and butt plugs – an all-time favourite here at Frolicme.
Soho Sex – our sexy couple spice up their sex life with some anal play and wrist restraints.
Most butt plugs have a tapered tip which becomes thicker then narrows at the ‘neck’ before the flared base. The narrow part or ‘neck’ sits in the anus and is held securely in place by your muscles which close around it—so the ‘plug’ is inside, and flared base is outside your body.
As you progress on your butt plug pleasure journey, you will find increasing sizes of plugs. Some still with a narrow neck, some increase in girth to proportions that might make your eyes water to think of!
Once you have opened yourself and your anal sphincter up to the joys of tentative plugging, you might find you need a larger girth to enjoy the stretch of the muscles there. Progressing slowly and seeing what your body enjoys and is capable of is important.
Once in place, you can enjoy other sexual stimulation and explore how it feels different. The prostrate is a very sensitive part of the rectal canal for men and those with penises, and you can even orgasm without an erection if the prostate is stimulated just right. Getting into the realms of vibrating butt plugs can be a mind-blowing experience. Being penetrated vaginally while wearing a butt plug can give a very saucy full sensation of double penetration and can help induce blended or internal orgasms where the deeper part of the clitoris is stimulated.
Butt plug retrieval
Once you have finished your fun, you will need to remove the plug. It might be easier to do this over the toilet so you can grab the base, which might still be very slippery. As you begin to gently tug, try once again to relax—your anus will try and grab on if you don’t, making it a lot harder to remove if you are tense. Use the ‘bearing down’ motion again and push.
Yes, there may be some excess lube and residual faeces if your rectum wasn’t completely empty, but that’s just the hazard of being a living, breathing human. If this worries you at all, you might want to use an anal douche prior to your bum fun explorations or have light meals in the lead-up to your session.
Using butt plugs can also prepare you for anal sex. Check out our anal sex beginners guide to help you enjoy some backdoor pleasure, whether with a penis, strapon or other implements. You can take things at your own pace and get to know how your body responds to this sort of pleasurable invasion. Training your anus to take increasing sizes of butt plug girth can make you more confident when it comes to having an entire phallus slide its way in.
Anal play can bring a whole new and exciting dimension to your sex life and is definitely worth having a go. Now you know how to use a butt plug, we hope you’ll think about introducing bum fun into your sexual repertoire.