Preparation and hygiene
Wash your hands and make sure the nails on the fingers you intend to use are clean and clipped, or at least filed smooth with no ragged edges.
If your lover is prone to squirting pop some towels underneath you both.
Get some nicely warmed lube close to hand.
Start with the mind and other erogenous zones, turning her on before you even touch her vulva. Read some erotica, watch some sexy films, listen to audio porn or even simply tell her what you’d like to do.
How to finger your girl
Position
Lie beside her, on your side with your dominant hand free, from this position you can nibble at her shoulders and neck, whispering all sorts of sweet nothings.
from the film HOME LOVE
When you’re both ready for the main event, gently place your whole hand, palm down over her mound, she might still even be wearing knickers.
Rub her full vulva with your palm, making soft circles, this will press her labia into her clitoris, hinting at what is to come next and arousing it, coaxing it to swell and become engorged.
How to finger – follow her lead
If she starts thrusting and bucking her hips upwards, tilting her pelvis in invitation, start pressing the flat tips of your fingers to the dip of her vagina entrance. You might even feel moisture spreading through the gusset of her panties.
Pull the fabric to one side and rub slowly round and round at the entrance of her vagina, remember you will still be cupping the rest of her pussy so this will be driving her wild with desire!
Keep up the pressure
She’ll be wriggling in delight. In this position, you are massaging all the right spots. You might feel it’s time to take off her knickers. This would be a great time to add some lube to your ministrations.
Resume the same position and keep up the good work, you could ease the tip of your finger into her entrance feeling the juices begin to flow, mingling with your pre-warmed lube.
If she opens her legs she is receptive to pushing a finger a little deeper, all the while keeping that pressure on her pudenda and clit with the heel of your hand. Listen to her body, she may be grinding against your hand, beckoning a firmer pressure, or if she’s withdrawing, ease off a little.
Ask, get to know her murmurs of delight and ask if she’s enjoying what you’re doing.
How to finger – listen carefully
Silence can sometimes be the loudest call of all for you keep doing exactly what you’re doing! Keep up that rhythm and watch for her breathing—is it held high in her throat and chest? Is she breathing deeply from her diaphragm? All great indicators that she’s very much enjoying what you’re doing.
Add more fingers
from the film FUCK ME NOW
Sliding on up, feeling for that slight difference in texture—her G-spot will be slightly spongy and is situated to the front of her vaginal wall just above the pubic bone. Curl your fingers in a come hither motion to stimulate this area.
You could move your fingers in deeper and still stimulate her clitoris with your thumb, circling around, finding what area feels good to her. Some women find direct touch on their exposed clitoris too intense, so experiment with rubbing to the side or even through the labia.
Again, don’t stop, watch her face for those all-important signs, her eyes fluttering closed, a blush rising on her decollate and throat, chest lifting, nipples hardening.
She may be very vocal, directing you to exactly where she wants to be touched, she might tell you how fast, how deep and when to stop.
At the brink of orgasm
Make sure you keep doing exactly what it is you are doing, especially if she’s silent. Some women need to have fingers withdrawn at the crucial moment to be able to orgasm, so make sure you ask this ahead of time. Then, when you feel the tell-tale twitching deep inside her vagina, with an engorgement and extra juiciness, you’ll know the moment has come to keep up the ministrations on the clitoris while removing your fingers.
from the film PIANO SEX
Indeed, for some women the opposite is true, they may require a deep, hard thrusting motion to tip them over the edge.
Most women won’t come from finger fucking alone so make sure you always attend to the clitoris.
When she comes, be sure to keep doing what you are doing until her spasms subside, unless she tells you otherwise or wriggles away. Women are capable of having many rolling orgasms that can blend together, she may experience this. There might be some twitching or aftershocks, which keep going until you stop.
from the film NAUGHTY KNICKERS
How to finger – change positions
You may have to change positions to bring the other hand in. Don’t be afraid to ask her to put her own hands to her vulva, you can place your hand on top, getting to know her preferred motion.
If she needs more pressure, ask her to cross her legs over your hands, trapping your actions to her.
Aftercare
Lie beside each other and bask in the afterglow of a beautiful intimate moment. If there is a lot of orgasmic fluids, be sure to get a dry towel for her so she doesn’t chill.
A move you might not have tried:
In this film a beautiful lesbian sex movie, English Garden, Cherry takes her lover’s vulva lips between her fingers, gripping them together over her clitoris then pokes her tongue to lick in between. This would increase pressure on the clitoris and definitely give a different sensation, ticking quite a few pleasure boxes as far as we’re concerned!
Read more on the wonderful, often forgotten art of fingering.
Happy fingering!